Make Room for Happiness

When you are feeling down and just need a little pick me up do you run out and buy something new?  I’ve learned that doing so just gets in the way of what most of us really want….to be happy.

It’s all about making room for what’s really important in your life – whatever that is.  It takes a little “personal detective work” and no one can do it for you.

So this week’s video is about getting rid of the stuff that is in the way of being happy.

You can watch it at:  https://youtu.be/TYggoWHX398

Making Lasting Changes in a Changing World

I’ve been working out with a personal trainer for over a year. She’s been invaluable to me this year.

Now she is moving to Denver and I’m going to have to reassess and adjust my success plan. That’s what this week’s video is about.

Would love to hear your comments and feedback. You can watch this week’s video at: https://youtu.be/M1KHaw205pQ

Wednesday Video – Are You Keeping Your Promises to Yourself?

The topic for today’s video is Keeping Your Promises – to yourself.  If you are ready to make positive changes in your life I suggest you start with keeping the promises that you make to yourself.

You don’t have to make big promises.

Keep them small and simple and you will make progress towards whatever you are working on.

I did it when I decided to make positive changes in my health, and I help my clients do this everyday.

To watch this week’s video click on the picture above or go to https://youtu.be/x4gtNB4ynPI

Change Isn’t Always Pretty

I’ve undergone so many changes in the past couple of years – and it hasn’t always been pretty.

And I’m really stepping out of my comfort zone and talking from the heart in these videos – and I know I will get better with practice.

Whatever you are working on in your own life whether you want to make a change or master a new skill, remember you have to practice – really roll up your sleeves and practice and it won’t always be pretty but in the end it will be SO worth it!

To view this week’s video click on the picture or visit  https://youtu.be/plB-3NKHfMk

 

 

Short Video of Me Working Out with my Personal Trainer. Love This Gal!

I started working out with a personal trainer in March of 2017 and it really made the difference for me.

In fact, when people ask me how I got in shape I tell them I hired a trainer.

When they ask me how they can reproduce my results, I tell them to hire a trainer, a good one, and DO WHAT THEY TELL YOU TO DO.  That’s what I did.

There are no short cuts and it’s hard work but having a trainer at  my side meant everything to me.  I didn’t start lifting, really lifting, until I hired a trainer, and I was over 50 so it was important for me to be safe and be smart about it.

Nikki Pavlich is THE best and I am so very grateful to have her in my corner.  I’ve learned so much this year and my confidence has skyrocketed.

Last year I was invited to participate in a promotional video for the YMCA.  It was so much fun!  Watch Nikki work her magic on me in this short video: https://youtu.be/PsC36K-qPlo?t=1m30s

 

Magic Wishes and Piles of Laundry – What a Life

Today I want to share what I call “one of those magical moments in life” when we suddenly become aware that we truly are connected to something bigger.  Dr. Wayne Dyer helped me with this one and for that I’ll always be grateful.  He continues to inspire me.

It was a Sunday afternoon a few years back and I was folding laundry and listening to one of my favorite authors and teachers, Dr. Wayne Dyer, on PBS talking about his latest book, Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting.

All morning I’d been feeling stuck and a bit frustrated and I just couldn’t shake it off.

So there I was on a beautiful sunny and clear day in Colorado, my little Yorkie longingly staring up at me with those big beautiful brown soulful eyes desperately wanting to go for a walk, and I just didn’t feel like it.

So I folded t-shirts and jeans, shorts and, well you get the picture.  I don’t “hate” anything but if I did it’d be folding laundry.  Although, through practicing mindfulness over the last few years I’ve managed to not NOT hate it so much because, well,  I don’t hate anything.  (Obviously I have more work to do in that department).

I had finally folded everything I could before facing the dreaded sock pile (the absolute worst part of laundry) when I heard Dr. Dyer talk about St. Germain in the I AM Discourses, and I experienced an instant shift.  I was no longer focused on the “stupid” socks, although I continued to fold them.

Maybe because I was a student of meditation and mindfulness (I’ll always be a student) or maybe because Dr. Dyer is SO connected that like gravity he pulled me from the confines of my own self-focused pity party and I was free to experience a “higher” me.  What I do know is his words were a beacon that completely transformed who I was being in that moment.

“The moment you say ‘I Am’, you set in motion this Power that has inherent within it all of these faculties.  It has all substance, and must take on whatsoever form the attention of the mind is fixed upon.  The ‘I Am’ is the Fathomless mind of God.   Use this fathomless mind of yours to place your attention always  on what is aligned with your Source of being – the unlimited abundance that is the highest good of all concerned.”   The I Am Discourses  by St. Germain as quoted by Dr. Wayne Dyer in Wishes Fulfilled.

Well, the laundry was done, the sun was still shining and my little puppy still wanted to go for a walk, so we did.  We were three blocks down the street when Rosco tried to pull me onto a neighbor’s lush green lawn.  I figured he needed to “conduct some puppy business” but we were close to the park and I decided  he could wait so I attempted to pull him along.  He wasn’t having it though and put up quite a fit.  He’s small but feisty!  So I had to take two steps onto the lawn to reach him and as I bent down to pick him up I noticed a piece of plain white notebook paper on the ground at my feet.   What I saw next truly took my breath away:  written in pencil were two words, “I AM”, and nothing more.

I still feel a spark of electricity pulse through me when I think of that day.  A day like many others that keep me on a path of embodying my “better self” or “taking the high road” as my mama use to say.

Transformation often feels magical.  Now, if I could find some magic that could transform laundry from dirty to clean, well pressed and hanging perfectly in my closet, well, now THAT would be something.

Seriously, if you haven’t read “Wishes Fulfilled” by Dr. Wayne Dyer, I highly recommend it.   And if you have laundry tips, please let me know.

Be well friends,

Victoria

 

No More Wishy Washy Resolutions.

So you’ve polished off the last of the holiday cookies, and rang in the New Year but have you written down your goals for 2018? Do you even have a clue where to start? Have you even given this any thought?  


I recently read that
41% of people make New Year’s resolutions and only 9.1% keep them.

Well, that makes me feel a bit better because I have not made any New Year resolutions this year. It’s not that I don’t believe in them. It was a New Year’s resolution that my husband and I made together that got me on the road to meeting my health goals this past year.


So I sat down this morning, just me and my journal, and I did a bit of soul-searching.

I realized that I’d been beating myself up for not making New Year resolutions! And the reason I haven’t set them is because I don’t take them lightly. I’m not going to make resolutions about just anything.


Seriously, the word resolute means firm in purpose or belief characterized by firmness and determination.

You cannot make resolutions from a wishy-washy space of uncertainty. You’ve got to know what is important to you, where you will put your energy this year, and what you refuse to fail at.

So if you haven’t set resolutions this year, don’t beat yourself up but don’t dismiss this opportunity to take a really close heartfelt look at the year ahead.

I invite you to take some time to do a bit of soul excavation. Sit down with your Journal, make a coffee date with your friend, take a good look at the coming year. What area of your life really needs your attention. Be honest with yourself. I guarantee you know exactly what you need to do in the coming year, at least there is a part of you that does, and your job is to tap that wisdom.


You don’t have to have it all figured out either.  Just be willing to take an honest look at your life and tell yourself the truth about where you are and where you want to be.
It could be in the area of health and fitness, career and finance, general self-care and well-being, and maybe you just need to clean out all the clutter! And if you want to improve the relationship you have with others, start with the relationship you have with yourself. 


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Blessings,
Vicki

Do Your Books Haunt You?

I have to confess that I use to have an addiction to personal development books.  I couldn’t help it, I was constantly reading three or four at a time.

  • I had several on my night stand.
  • My bookshelf was stuffed to the max.
  • I even had a closet full of banker boxes full of them!

And don’t even get me started on my Kindle library!

This past year I’ve gotten better.

  • I spent more time at the gym and less time in my comfy reading corner.
  • I spent more time preparing healthy foods and less time reading recipes.
  • I’m applying what I’m learning.  Sometimes without even trying!

But I’ll never give up reading!

 Reading expands your perspective, introduces you to new ideas and is the friend beside you as you discover new things about yourself.  And some haunt you for years!

Many of the books I’ve read have earned a permanent place on my bookshelf, and one such book is, “The Four Agreements – a practical guide to personal freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz”.

This book was published in 1997 and it didn’t take long to read as it’s only 160 pages long but did it have an impact! The message is timeless.

The Four Agreements, in case you are not familiar with the book, is centered around the following four “agreements” you make with yourself:

  • Be impeccable with your word
  • Don’t take anything personally
  • Don’t make assumptions
  • Always do your best

I’m convinced that just reading this one book and applying it to your everyday life would transform your world.

This book has haunted me for years!  Sometimes I hear the words from this book running through my mind, like when I’m running late for an appointment.

Have you read a book like that?  One that continues to “haunt” you long after you’ve put it down.  One that’s  gotten under your skin and calls your best self forward?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Cheers,
Vicki

 

 

 

Neglecting This Relationship Will Cost You

Neglecting This Relationship Will Cost You

Invest in yourself

Living in today’s fast-paced world you can’t afford to neglect yourself.While you are focused on meeting the demands placed on you by others, it’s easy to lose sight of the things that really matter. That is a recipe for burnout and that’s what happened to me two years ago.

We have so many choices about where to focus our energy and if we are undecided in any area of our life, life will eagerly step in and decide for us. We won’t even notice that it’s happening!

So how do you decide?

  • You start by getting clear about what’s most important to you, your priorities, what you really value, what really matters to you.
  • You have to build and nurture a relationship with yourself just like you would with anyone. This is critical in building sustainable success in any area of your life. It’s a simple idea but sadly many people never give it a thought.

Think about it, how well do you really know yourself?

Can you list the top three things that are most important to you?

Do you like yourself?

Do you trust yourself?

If you answered yes to all three questions, congratulations! You are equipped to add your unique value to the world and get on the path to a more rich and meaningful life, which I believe is a necessary ingredient in creating sustainable success.

If you were not able to answer yes to any one of these questions, don’t beat yourself up. Life, as they say, is a journey and I’ve just handed you a compass. I hope it’s useful.

I would love to hear your thoughts and feedback on anything I’ve shared with you today. Feel free to comment and let’s further the conversation. I’ve just scratched the surface of this topic but I feel it’s a really important conversation to have.