Neglecting This Relationship Will Cost You

Invest in yourself

Invest in yourself

Living in today’s fast-paced world you can’t afford to neglect yourself.While you are focused on meeting the demands placed on you by others, it’s easy to lose sight of the things that really matter. That is a recipe for burnout and that’s what happened to me two years ago.

We have so many choices about where to focus our energy and if we are undecided in any area of our life, life will eagerly step in and decide for us. We won’t even notice that it’s happening!

So how do you decide?

  • You start by getting clear about what’s most important to you, your priorities, what you really value, what really matters to you.
  • You have to build and nurture a relationship with yourself just like you would with anyone. This is critical in building sustainable success in any area of your life. It’s a simple idea but sadly many people never give it a thought.

Think about it, how well do you really know yourself?

Can you list the top three things that are most important to you?

Do you like yourself?

Do you trust yourself?

If you answered yes to all three questions, congratulations! You are equipped to add your unique value to the world and get on the path to a more rich and meaningful life, which I believe is a necessary ingredient in creating sustainable success.

If you were not able to answer yes to any one of these questions, don’t beat yourself up. Life, as they say, is a journey and I’ve just handed you a compass. I hope it’s useful.

I would love to hear your thoughts and feedback on anything I’ve shared with you today. Feel free to comment and let’s further the conversation. I’ve just scratched the surface of this topic but I feel it’s a really important conversation to have.

Life Is Perfect Even When It’s Clearly Not

My hubby John and I recently went camping  in the Rocky Mountains. We were both looking forward to getting off the grid for a few days.

So imagine our disappointment when our SUV started losing power as we drove along the Arkansas River through the canyon. The roads were filled with S curves, traffic was bumper-to-bumper with eager campers and weekend adventurers, and places to pull off were scarce and far between.

We were pulling our 16 ft trailer behind us so this was not convenient.

One minute we were gliding down the road like happy little campers and the next we were sitting ducks.

We were fortunate enough to find a place to pull over safely and then sat there for a moment in dismay wondering what our next move would be. We were still about 20 miles out from the next town where we knew we could find a mechanic.

The first thought I had as John hopped out of the car and popped the hood was how I had been wanting an adventure and life was now presenting me with one.

I remembered a coaching principle  I learned long ago that said that things are always perfect even when they clearly aren’t, and this clearly did not seem perfect.

I was a little surprised at how calm and peaceful I felt just beneath the rush of panicky thoughts that were beginning to form.

We had no phone service  and I began to offer up silent prayers as my husband did his best to get us back on the road.

After about a 20-minute rest the car seemed to gain full power again and  we were able to go a few more miles down the road before we had to pull over again.

Several people stopped to check on us and offer help and we pondered whether to continue towards our destination or try to get back home.

And then an angel dressed in jeans and a t-shirt came to our rescue.

His name was Lonnie and he offered to look under our hood.  After making a few changes with no improvement,  he headed into town to see if there was a mechanic available, and  we weren’t  sure we’d see him again.

We were meeting friends at our campsite and they eventually caught up with us on the road. And then Lonnie showed up and announced that it would be several days before our car could be seen. And even though our friends were now with us, like a guardian angel he stayed at our side and followed us all into town.

 As we limped into town Lonnie suggested we pull into the AutoZone parking lot, and we did. The news from the diagnostic machine wasn’t good but Lonnie paid no attention and suggested that we purchase a $13 fuel filter that he felt would fix everything. John was on the fence because we had just replaced the fuel pump and fuel filter a few months earlier but it was only $13 and we were looking at a very expensive tow home.

While John went inside to purchase the new part, Lonnie grabbed his tools and removed the old one.

It took Lonnie all of 2 minutes  to install  the new fuel filter  and then John unhitched the trailer and took the Tahoe for a test drive.  Fifteen minutes later he pulled up and said that the car was running perfectly, and it has been ever since!

We drove another 30 miles to our camp site, spent the weekend there, and drove all the way home with no further problems.

As we said our farewells to Lonnie that day John offered him some cash, which he flatly refused. This man had given up an entire afternoon to help us out and accepted nothing in return.

We live in a virtual world surrounded by technology and there are eyes everywhere that show us life from the convenience of our comfy homes. 

Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy and am grateful for the technology that keeps me connected to friends and family all over the world but it’s nice to know that there are angels waiting to guide us when we decide to unplug and go out into the real world.

Back from Burnout and Ready to Play

For the past year-and-a-half I’ve been on sabbatical, what I like to call my own personal self care retreat. The truth is, I had to retreat. I needed to find myself again.

The day I was hauled off to the hospital in the back of an ambulance was the final straw. It was time for me to take my self-care to the extreme, something I had been teaching my clients to do for years.

So I withdrew from the world for a while. I shut down my websites, put my coaching business on hold, I turned down the volume on what felt like an extremely loud and busy life and I began to listen to my heart again.

Me with my partner in all things and the love of my life, John. Biking where the dear and the antelope play!

My life has changed in so many ways this past year. I have broken through barriers that I never thought I could. I had already been working out with my husband, John, for over a year when I hired a personal trainer to help take me to the next level, and she did! I’ve worked hard physically and spiritually. And I can’t wait to share more with you!

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I’m looking forward to staying connected!

Be well my friend,
Vicki